Gaslighting Narc?

Y’all I’m so stressed out in my life

Recently got kicked out of my house b/c the landlord passed and the home was in process of being sold.

My boyfriend blames me for us losing the house. Even though we got kicked out because the landlord passed.

His mother thinks it’s okay to degrade and scream at people and allows her son whose 30 to be a dead beat, he doesn’t work, doesn’t hold a job, degrades and belittles calls me stupid, ugly, fat, a hoe, dirty etc.

we’re staying at his moms for the time being to get into a new place and it’s been nothing but problems the entire time! She screams she yells she belittles the same as her son, always blaming me for something. Her other grown son who lives with her left his 12 dirty dishes in the sink and she blamed me for them and I said they weren’t mine she doesn’t care just starts screaming and cussing and shit.

Today she had her grand kids over, and I had my kids my oldest was showing her other grand child a toy it’s a fluffy unicorn that walks with a leash and wiggles it’s butt it’s super cute. I didn’t even wanna bring it into her house because her house is dirty but the kids played with it and my daughter went to show her grandchild the toy and she apparently was scared of it, and my child was just trying to show her how cool it was at 7 “they believe that because she’s 7 that she knows a lot and has the brain of a 16 year old” anyways. She started screaming at my daughter accusing her of trying to scare her with the toy, I was right there. And she told my daughter she was gonna whoop her ass and stick her in a timeout. I let her know that she needed to not yell at my child, and that my daughter was just trying to include her and let her see the toy. She told me that that’s a lie and that my daughter always try to scare her. My daughter loves to get kids out of there scare zone and help them feel comfortable and include them.

Anyways she tried dismissing me and I said I didn’t appreciate the way she spoke to my child. She went on oh be a women before a mother, and I raised mine and her 3 out of 4 kids are all coke heads. Smoke weed, drink from 8 am to 8 am literally and call them her little prince and princess. Get mad because I defended my child for her threatening to whoop my 7 year old over a toy. Told me that I’m a monster.. my boyfriend demanded I be at his moms house in 10 minutes or he would call the cops on me, has threatened to have someone kill me in the past, has said he would purposely have me arrested for no reason just to get me away from him. Said I disrespected his mom by putting her in her place for threatening my child. And when I ask him if the bed is ready for the baby he ignores me when I got there her bed was full to the top with blankets pillows and sheets and clothing I asked him to come get our son and he told his sister I could take my lazy ass and bring him in. I have 3 his sister had to come out and get him because he couldn’t do it himself. Tells me how dirty and nasty I am yet his mother is a hoarder, her floors are black there’s trash in corners of the house and you can’t walk in her bedroom.

He stole money from me, leaves me with nothing and I have absolutely nothing, he constantly tells me he will have me arrested for taking my children that we are

Not married and he has no custody too. I’m fed up, there’s not many resources in my area and I don’t know what to do I’m in such a crisis I feel like ending my life

Another thing to note, a neighbor who kid likes to play with my oldest asked if I could take her to pick her grandson up from school since mine attends the same. And so I did, she explained she had an electric scooter she wanted to give my daughter that she didn’t need anymore..

she ended up tellin MIl and apparently mother n law said that her other grand child could use it.

I’m Getting food stamps, and wic,

There is no open Section 8 Waite list in my state right now. And I signed up for project based 2 years ago

I’m waiting on a decreased daycare rate

FYI- I’m a full time mom of all 3 of my kids, I don’t have any family, I’m not originally from the area that I live. My kids are with me all the time. I thought his family would treat us like family but things have changed, and they seem like evil people after 5 years. I’ve noticed some weird actings of his mom before but we maintained a pretty good relationship, although I heard that hhis family “mom and sister” were the main cause of the split of his past relationship.. I think it’s a mixture of his Marc ways and his mom.

I have never told him to be home in 10 or I’d call the cops. That’s super controlling and crazy