Is this a ubuse?

I already know the answer just needed a subtitle.

I’m in a deep spot.

My boyfriend is a gaslighter. He played this role when we met that he was this great guy, always trying to help people and that everyone loved him and made it seem like he was amazing. His family told me he was a crazy asshole, but he told me he didn’t want me to meet his family I was told they were the reason his last relationship didn’t work, and he told me he was embarrassed of me to meet his mom because she was a hoarder and lived like a mess, I ended up meeting them, growing close, and he hated it, he didn’t want me to get close, than he would tell me that I was being rude by not hanging out with them, than back to the same thing again, 5 years and 2 kids later he calls me nasty names, tells me how ugly I am, accuses me of getting us evicted out of a home that our landlord sold, runs my car out of gas, hangs out with his friends mostly every single night, he stopped hanging out with his friend when he broke up with his wife and friend started dating someone new but when the friend started dating someone new he started having again relationship problems and wanted to talk to my boyfriend again about his problems disappear come again.

My boyfriend has a drug problem “I don’t do drugs never have” he likes to smoke weed, do coke, drink alcohol and get drunk and to the point where he’s paranoid and itching his ears till they scab up. He tells me I’m crazy for not liking this and trying to get him to quit. He wakes up and drinks beer at 8 am. Mind you he’s only 30. I’m 22 and I’ve waisted years in him.

He tries to manipulate me and says if he wanted kids with someone els he would have had kids in the past but he loved me so much that he was okay having kids with me, he has drug me by my hair, threatened to kill me, choked me, stuck me out side in 30 degree weather with no clothes, demands I get home at a certain time or tells me he will call the cops, steals my money, and than says he never touched my money the money he takes is what I owe him back for the things he has done for me,and he has never even taken me out on a date. He makes up an excuse for everything. Oh I haven’t taken you out in 5 years because do you think I want you to go to an environment like what I do with my friends ? “Going to the bar” and he went out to eat with his buddies and was supposed to take me and the kids but decided it was just gonna be his buddies and there girlfriends. And so I was left pregnant and with 2 kids to go to a resturaunt to eat by myself. He has threatened to reck my car, if we argue and need to ride in the car he will purposely step on the break and jerk the car or go around the curbs really fast and have me flying out of my seat.

By the way his family is all treating me like garbage, disrespecting my kids and he tells me how dirty, nasty,selfish,ugly , fat, stupid, and everything els that I am, while he grew while he grew up with his mom hoarding stuff and collecting dirty for years. Her yard looks like a scrap yard.

Here’s one photo of her home