Causes a rift with my husband and his mother…. Now what?

Ok so I had my daughter December 15th

I developed postpartum preclampsia December 17th, the day before I was supposed to leave the hospital. My liver enzymes and blood pressure were out of control for a few days, I had a magnesium drip, and was eventually my levels were stabilized with 500 mg labetol 3 times a day and I was able to go home December 23rd.

My mother in law wanted my husband and my 2 year old son to go to her house Christmas Day. I didn’t want to go, I had just gotten home, recovering from a C-section, so me and the new baby were going to stay home.

Christmas morning, I woke up and I was so sad. I was crying all morning. I had just had a baby so I think I had a little post partum depression. I was so sad my two year old wasn’t going to be with me, and my husband too, but I had been away from my son for 8 days and he wasn’t able to visit me and I wanted to be with him for Christmas

I was also worried about myself. I was worried about my blood pressure. When I was in the hospital, even after the mag drip and the labetol my pressure still occasionally spiked. One day I had to have labetol in an IV. I was worried maybe they sent me home too early and I would have a seizure or stroke. My husband felt bad so he decided to stay home.

He called him and and explained the situation. She was very mad at him, yelling at him that he is picking me over his family, that it’s Christmas and she should be with her grandson. She brought up this could be her last Christmas. (She’s not sick she just likes to remind us that she’s old and will die soon).

It’s now almost a month later, and my husbands mom is still not talking to him.

My husband is mad at me now. He says this is my fault, because I guilted him into staying home. I never guilted him. My husband told me I could have went Christmas Day too, and the problem would have been solved. His mom would have been happy, I wouldn’t be alone, but I was only thinking about myself and wanting to stay home.

So now he’s mad at me. He will probably be mad at me until his mom forgives him, and who knows when that will be since she holds a grudge