Weird coincidence or something else?

So to give a backstory, I am leaving my emotionally, financially abusive partner (boyfriend of 8 years, kids are involved)

So I am leaving him, but I can't right now and so I am pretending to still work at our relationship - even though he knows I am not happy and not fully in the relationship anymore - to keep things peaceful. He often accuses me of cheating because I am no longer as intimate as I used to be with him. Which is rather normal considering the abuse.. but okay... But he does also try to coerce me into having sex with him using all sorts of manipulation techniques so that shows me that no matter whatever he's doing to be grasping at straws, he still doesn't respect me or my boundaries.

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a few weeks ago I was watching a romantic movie when he was with his buddy, a sleepover, about an hours drive away.

I was fantasizing about romance.. and was touching myself intimately romantically, not sexually but like my face and neck mostly..

Something my partner has never done.

The very next day, he touched my neck exactly like that. It felt kinda gross, not only due to how I feel about him right now, but also because it was so very close to what I had done to myself the evening before. I felt watched, violated even. Even though I don't see in him that he's tech savvy enough to have any access to watching into our living room... With cameras etc..

I don't know how to feel and to feel comfortable to be alone in my house anymore.