Am I Giving Desperate?

I recently connected with an old college friend and we messaged back and forth and that eventually led to us texting. After texting for a few weeks, I invited him to hang out and we ended up having sex. Now that was not apart of my plan but everything was 100% consensual. After that he traveled back home and still continued to text me every week but not every single day. That’s fine with me because I am not his girlfriend. As the weeks continued to go by I found myself wanting to see him again but wanted him to ask since I initiated the first meet-up. I would even drop hints like hey, I had fun if you ever want to come back let me know. He’d agree and said he had fun but never really said anything about hanging out again. I told my friend about this and she told me to be more direct with my approach and helped me construct a text message just stating how much fun I had and that I would like to see him again. He actually agreed but let me know that he was busy this weekend but would let me know about the following weekend. Sounds good right? Here’s the issue, I told my married friend about this and she said I was giving desperate because he could’ve asked to hang out awhile ago but didn’t. She said the fact that I listed all these ideas for us to do and he was very nonchalant and was like that’s cool or we can stay in as well. She said I deserve chalant lol. I’ll be honest I am 25 and trying to figure out dating after being in abusive relationship for 4 years. Am I being desperate or am I doing the right thing by letting him know I am interested. I just figured if we went out and he didn’t ask after that I would just leave him alone… please let me know what you all think. Your girl is struggling 😭😭