Would you be annoyed?

Question

Sooo my cousin is like my best friend/sister and my neighbour. Little back sorry, it took me 4 years of fertility treatments ultimately resulting in IVF to get pregnant. She was sooooo supportive, and then 10 weeks later we also find out she’s pregnant! I was stoked cuz her other two kids are a bit older and I was super happy we would have kids close in age and proximity to play. Fast forward a few weeks and her pregnancy is going miserably (I’ve been feeling fantastic, so I feel for her), but then she starts making remarks like “how does it feel to be gods favourite?” - regarding my no symptoms…..me being slightly annoyed thinking “how does it feel to get pregnant for free?” Like, sorry I’m not miserable? Anyway I don’t say shit, I let it go. Then comes to my shower which she was originally going to help plan with my mom who was hosting. My moms not the best planner (this is common knowledge in my family lol) so she offered to help. She has not reached out once to my mom once and basically said “well if she doesn’t tell me what she needs then I guess she needs nothing….”. Like okay….thanks for your help. Again, I just say nothing. Now up to present. I had a 3D ultrasound last week (27 weeks - recommended best for pictures by the tech) where my son hid the entire time, when all I wanted was to catch a glimpse of what he looks like (like I’ve been waiting 4 years for this moment!). The tech couldn’t get anything so luckily she called to rebook us and I finally got my pictures! I was so excited and I sent one to her to share and all she says back was “all babies look funny at that stage you shod go back at 34/35 weeks”……like at this point I’m pissed. Like this is my FIRST baby, and you’re supposed to be my best friend, like why are you acting like such a B$”!?!……am I wrong to be annoyed? Like should I be less pissed cuz she’s having a hard time? Like I dunno……
Oh and final remark….she calls me to tell me she wants to book a shower in May (when I’m due and also my birthday). And I replied like “yeah that’s cool but I’m due mid May and like any weekend could be a grey area for me so as long as you don’t expect much of me coming like go for it” but like….wouldn’t you think of that?? Lol I dunno maybe it’s hormones..sorry for the long rant but I don’t want to go around talking shit but I also needed a place to vent! 
Advice welcome!

Answer

In short: I think both of you have plenty of hormones and that might be worth keeping in mind!
She's struggling. She's not feeling well (I've been there it's mentally draining like no other thing I've done in my life). Maybe her older kids aren't excited, maybe hubby isn't that supportive or maybe she's just a big miserable and hormonal mess.
Could she be more supportive? Yes.
Should she be more supportive? Yes.
Maybe she's just really struggling. I've seen my SIL have her kids fairly close and I've had mine with several years between because the mental drain and length of shitty pregnancy is just too much. I wasn't even sure I wanted another.
And as for her Shower, May might be the ideal time. She's obviously due a bit later and it's hard to take into consideration that you could give birth at any time from late April to start June - or most likely from mid to late May.
Just let her know you would love to come, but it obviously depends on when baby is coming out.
It's okay for her to have it in May. And it's okay for you to not be there.
I hope you two find a way to talk throng through so it doesn't grow and get worse 🙏

Answer

I think it might be the hormones. Especially if she has always been supportive of you and it’s just been since you both are now pregnant

Would you be annoyed?

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