Advice please
So I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 5 years. We moved in together about two years ago and up until last year I had to start working more about 60 hours a week since his job reduced his hours. With that being said I’ve been taking more of the financial burden with things rather it being me paying rent by myself, helping him out $50 here and there helping him out with his own family. I NEVER rub into his face how he don’t provide or how’s her been slacking in lil things. But Honestly since working more I can say I honestly be tired, as in I don’t have the energy for sexual things or just cooking, I’ll order take out. My boyfriend has a very high sex drive, He would literally always complain how low my lust is for him and being tired shouldn’t be a thing cause he be tired and still “lust for me “ . he honestly told me he would want sex 3-4 times a week. And when he first told me that I said I wouldn’t be able too give sex that much each week t and we got into an argument . Honestly that’s where I can say I’ve been slacking in the relationship is sex, cooking. As far as sex go the longest I say I’d have him go with out is 6 days. As for him I told him I would want more intimacy outside of sex ie: flowers, dates , massages and he’s barley keep up with that. I understand we’re human, but sometime it just feel like I’m expected so much more considering he be one of those “macho guys “ Always talking about gender roles. Which brings me to my kinda breaking point? Last night , while he did take me out on a date and brought me flowers outside of Valentine’s Day. While on the way home I asked so when do you see us getting married ? And I’m not the type of Girl who needs the documentation it’s more on the ring and the thought of the man I love getting on one knee would be nice to have as security. He then try to basically sum it up he don’t see that happen until he have himself established, he was basically saying 25 years or even longer. He tired to justify it by saying it shouldn’t have to be a Cap on certain things and he shouldn’t feel rushed. I called it BS due to the fact being even after 20 years and you still wouldn’t see yourself getting a one knee is such a kick in the face cause why am I even doing all this ? I’m not about to be 35 saying I’m “married” and not having an actual ring. After all that he tried to kiss it up to “ we are getting married don’t think I don’t wanna marry you “. During that night even after all that I tried giving him some sex /: and I honestly just kept getting dry. I just feel should this just be the breaking point ? We clearly have two different views ? Maybe he should find a women who don’t wanna get married ? Sometime I just feel I’m loosing myself as aPerson then get this other feelings that me and him made it this far of 5 years I can’t just quit it ? I just feel sometime I be crazy for thinking this ): Like I know I can call on him if stuff was to get to get rocky but then it feels like I’m settling for less. Pls if you have any advice please share
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