Opinions without being biast of my whole relationship

My boyfriend and I have been dating 3 1/2 years. First when started in the beginning, I met him when he had room mates and I had one. We would go between each other’s places all the time. I started a new job and was torn between what guy I wanted to be with . I got drunk one night at work and made out with a guy I liked. I told my boyfriend about it a week later and was honest. I also was drunk and flashed someone one time , I never mentioned that but he saw it on my phone I guess. He knew about it and decided never to mention it. Also in the beginning, when we first started talking/dating he was messaging another girl everyday from what she told me. He told me that was a lie and that she was jealous he picked me instead of her to date. This was all within the first year. He chose to forgive me and move on and so did I. I had a bad room mate at my first apartment, after a year and a half I got my own place. He moved back in with his parents after his friends lease was up. He came over a lot almost nightly but didn’t live with me. He Wasn’t ready to, neither was I probably… until the end where I felt like I paid so much into our lives alone. I asked him to

Move in and he kinda half ass moved in said he lived there but none of his things were there. Sooo I felt like I was not appreciated or a priority I guess for a long while. It built up some resentment and I made him start paying me. I pushed hard for us to get a new place a better one he just didn’t care to. I was crying about it because I hated my old place so much filled with bugs and mold and just not healthy. I said I’m getting a new place you can kick rocks or come. Now we are in our new place 5 months in the place is so much nicer he’s glad I made us move but it’s been harder than ever. I’m in school and waitressing and he is a real estate agent. We split the bills. I was offended in the beginning he wouldn’t just pay them because I was juggling so much I’m starting to think he can’t? He came off in the beginning like he has a lot of money, his friends would make jokes about him being “rich” but he told me he couldn’t afford to buy me a purse and didn’t want me seeing his bank account balances. I went thru his wallet and mail and he seriously has like over 10 cards to all different places? And mail coming in with new ones? I’m like that’s odd and apps that build your credit and crypto stock stuff all over his phone. The night before Valentine’s Day I woke up in the middle of the night and saw his phone open while he was sleeping. I had never gone through his phone before. He always kept a long password, tucked away in his pants, black screen protector, do not disturb past certain times of the day, etc. I took my chance and I saw him messaging Twitter ONLy fans girls accounts asking for specific videos for him on his phone. I was very hurt should have taken screen shots but didn’t. Of course he deleted everything before I could see it again. I was sleeping on the couch for a couple weeks and I told him if there is anything you want to be honest about then now is the time. I said that at least 20 times. I found out he was lying about paying for only fans women content .he swore over his dogs life he never paid for women online . I found out he had an account and paid because the website said he already had an account. I asked to see his bank account and he ran and locked himself in the bathroom. I was so mad at this point. I knew there was something he didn’t want me seeing on his bank wether it was he’s rich asf or broke asf. He proceeds to bring me printed out billing sheets the next day and I said what am I going to do with these do you think I’m stupid? . He finally ended up showing me he was paying for only fans while dating me. Two days later. TWO DAYS.. I went on his phone and he had an only fans page pulled up in his safari pages and a video screen recorded from tiktok of a girl flashing her boobs. I was like seriously? I went looking on all his social media on my own phone and saw he was following so many women Instagram models, only fans models, dirty looking women, didn’t matter. I started asking some of these women if he ever talked to them. Some didn’t answer, some did saying ya he has messaged me before, some saying no he hasn’t messaged me before. He messaged a random girl that plays golf “happy birthday golf god.” First of all barf 🤮 she never answered and I’m in his profile pics right there how embarrassing. He messaged another girl he knows “look at you tan ass girl” from a picture she posted. He told me a girl tried to suck his 🍆 on Snapchat, But he didn’t do it because he said I can’t I have a gf. He claimed he didn’t remember her last time. It took me a while to find and figure out who it was. I messaged her and asked what was going on and she said if she did that she doesn’t remember because “ she use to drink a lot but doesn’t sound like her” her and him use to hook up years ago and I made him block her. I said made him block you? I’ve never have ever heard of this girl before in my life. And I told her I didn’t even know anything about her at all. She looked so MID and easy too I was like🙄. Then she proceeded to say I’m lucky to have him and we’re cute together. After that she blocked me and my best friends on Instagram. I wasn’t even mad or rude to her just asked what the story was. I’m just like ugh wtf… I looked at his Snapchat most recent snap and it was a random girl. Everyone else’s snaps matched up on his from when they last talked. She claimed they hadn’t talked in 4 years but she was the most recent snap at the top. I found that interesting. (Couldn’t find her on any other social media either) Now he wants to make it work and stay together but I felt lied to in my face so many times, and disgust. I’m not innocent either but I didn’t emotionally get involved with other men and entertain them. Guys would hit me up because I’m an attractive girl and I’d ghost them. He says he wants to marry me and be with me forever and I said well you didn’t marry me yet so🤷‍♀️ now I have just been sleeping in the same bed with him my body is sore I feel hungover and sick everyday even without drinking… even tho I have been a lot because I’ve been so shocked and hurt and sad. I keep waking up in the middle of the night. I don’t think he ever physically has cheated but how would I know if he just keeps lying. He says I’m intimidating and if he had told me the truth originally I would have dumped him. He will admit something once I show proof that’s it. He never really goes out, he’s a home body is the weird thing. I’m a very understanding person. We have different hobby’s I’d say, we are very different types of people. Like almost opposites. I’ve had friends comment he’s a douche bag and “raises his voice in a rude way to people” but I never see that because I love him and he is my best friend. Or at least thought he was. I’ve always thought he was misunderstood sometimes. He’s blaming me now saying I’m giving up on us because I’ve been considering a break up. He never gave up on us he said. Now he is love bombing me so bad. Trying to get in the bed with me, saying he loves me, trying snuggle, call me nicknames, laugh. He keeps trying consistently asking about “can we please move on and forward”. He said we were about to get a house, get married and have kids (all things I want in life) I’m 25 and he’s 27. I just had a screaming crying break down because I’m like leave me alone!! Then he said alright I’ll just leave then. He left just now without saying anything to me idk where he is going. My friends are trying to influence me to move somewhere new city with them. If things end bad with them I end up loosing everyone. I feel a lot of personal influences but just hearing the facts I want some non bias opinions and guidance. Sorry for the long read.