Recently I figured out that I want no visitors at the hospital after delivery besides my son if it's allowed. I also stated I want at least two weeks ( minimun , I wanted longer) without visitors so that I can bond with my newborn who will be my last. My first, everyone treated us like we were teenagers who had no idea what we were doing and wouldn't give me my baby when he cried. They always said he wanted or needed something aside from his mom. Even when I said he probably wants his mom. They said noo, it's probably hungry.

Anyway, I missed out on a lot. Still bitter about that. ( Also We aren't teenagers or close when we had our first). I understand they were excited but they didn't realize they took that bonding time away I had a hard time getting milk supply , breast feeding, and bonding.

My husband is trying to understand but also saying he wants his mom to see the baby when it's a new born.

Let me also say we got in a huge fight because she over stepped at first and my husband took her side and said she doesn't understand even after I asked him to talk to her.

Am I being selfish for wanting boundaries and time to bond with my newborn and want us to get in a rhythm before people take the baby and ignore the fact that they'll come and also trash the house? I stated maybe after the two weeks they can come for like 30 minutes or something. It's our last and I want to embrace it as long as I can and do it differently

Am I in the wrong? What would you do?