I’m about 19 weeks pregnant and my partner lives in Ireland and I live in Colorado and have my son here . I can’t get him

To tell me when he will be here for me and I’ve been doing the entire pregnancy and my doctors appointments by myself . We FaceTime but lately it’s less and less and I’m getting told I’m “too needy “and “too selfish.” And quite frankly everytime I try to make a list of different plans and ideas for us and our relationship, he ends up hanging up and not giving me any real answers.

I love him and I feel like I’m too old to fall for this stuff and yet I am. He says he will try to take my daughter from me and prove I can’t do it and I’m an u fit mom etc etc and I don’t know where this comes from. I already have to deal with my sons father and really felt like my partner and I could make it work but we got pregnant and I’ve never felt more alone . At the same time , I feel strong some days and like it’s his loss if he can’t have a conversation with me and if he has to result to such petty threats before our daughter is even healthy and born !

I hope I can figure out if it’s over or not so I can continue to grow and move on. I’m planning for any scenario at this point : looking into birth and postpartum doulas and ways to cut my expenses to accommodate hiring help.

I don’t have a family support system but I have been researching 4-6 weekly support groups to attend for both before the pregnancy and after the birth. I just feel extremely hurt and betrayed and sad that my daughter won’t grow up with a traditional family and I wish I could make it work for her sake bc it seems like most of the time it’s because we aren’t physically together but on two opposite time zones and cultures 🤷‍♀️

I really just need some advice or love and guidance.

When I told him I was pregnant he brought a bottle of rum in the car with me in it and when I asked to get out for the safety of my baby and my son at home , and also continued drinking and eventually totaled the car that night and I had to ask a stranger to use their phone and call his mom

And tell her the news since I was in a foreign country with no phone 🤦🏻‍♀️