Gender disappointment

I just need a safe space to say my feelings. Today we found out our third child who I am pregnant with will be a boy. I experienced a miscarriage a few months ago and lost our girl. We currently have two other boys. My husband is taking it so hard. I'm trying to stay so positive on the fact I've never cared about having boys or girls until I lost our daughter. I keep praying this baby is healthy and my body can carry this baby full term. But now I feel so sad I'm never going to experience having a mother daughter relationship like I have with my own mom. I'm trying to not tell my husband as he's taking this hard. He loves his boy's but he is now grieving so hard for the daughter we lost and was taken from us. My husband was even trying to tell me "just have one more after." I just can't have anymore purposely. I'm going to be 36 and I have quite a lot of health issues and resources for 3 boys is what we can do responsibly. I feel so bad to tell him no more but we agreed on 3 and we agreed this is the last pregnancy for us. We love our boys our world revolves around our family and I'm so hurt our dream of our daughter is gone. I told him if we hadn't lost her we wouldn't be having our son and I just can't justify one life is more important then the other. It's more then just gender disappointment it's grief and I'm so sad.