Recently my husband got a membership for the Y. when I was pregnant with our daughter he would take our boys there to play basketball and do other fun things with kids their age. It was great during the winter for him to take our boys there to get them out of the house and especially after we had our daughter to try to give me a little bit of quiet time at the house.

Since we live in a bigger city there are multiple locations in the city that we can go to. We live between two different locations that are about the same distance from us. My husband was taking our boys to the one location but has since switched locations because our boys signed up for basketball and swimming (swim isn’t offered at the other location) and the one location didn’t have any open spaces for them to play basketball.

With our boys being involved in various activities we visit the new location multiple times a week. The gym is set up so that people have a track to walk that circles around the basketball court area. Last week while we were there with our kids I noticed this one woman he kept staring at every single time she would walk around the gym. So I’m thinking does he know her somehow? Wanted to ask him but thought maybe I’m imagining things and didn’t want to start a fight since I am exhausted from being up all night with a 4 month old.

Fast forward to this week at our sons practice right away I started seeing the same thing. Every single time no matter what side of the gym she was on he would be watching her. So I flat out asked him. “Do you know her?” He tried to play dumb and said who? I said that woman. Every single time she walks around the gym you’re staring at her. He immediately got pissed and just started shaking his head talking about I was looking for a reason to fight and blah blah blah. I calmly told him no I’ve noticed it the past few times we’ve been here. You stare at her and she is looking at you. Mind you this woman won’t even look at me and my daughter when we’re sitting right next to the track when she walks by. Most ppl walk by and smile at the baby, she has never smiled at her or me.

The thing that really bugged me is the weekend before he went on this whole rant about how someone can be lead on by making the wrong kind of eye contact with the opposite sex and how that can cause issues in a relationship.

I’m to the point I don’t even want to go to the gym with him. I don’t feel great about myself since I still have a bit of baby weight to lose and now I have to feel like my husband is checking some other woman out every time he goes there.

All of that to ask what would you do and what would be your reaction be going forward?