How to nicely tell husband to stop

My littlest is 17 days old so we get up at night every 2-3 hours he is breastfeeding so i dobt wake or ask my husband to get up with us during the night.

I typically go to bed around 8 Or whenever i put our 3 year old to sleep but my husband stays up till around 12-1 am which is fine my issue is he wakes me up REPEATEDLY until hes asleep at night for multiple reasons tonight it was to help find renote to pass him a drink to wake up baby to eat even tho he knows i have an alarm set on my phone to go off every 3 hours to feed baby and to check on baby everything he is more then capable of doing himself but he wakes me up to do it ( if it was once or twice i think i would be fine) but its multiple times until hes asleep in bed then i dont get woke up at all and it probably wouldnt be a big deal but it takes me over 30-60 minutes each time to fall back asleep and im already getting up multiple times a night to feed baby and i am always the one getting up with our kids in the morning while he sleeps in because he stays up all night

How should i approach telling him to leave me alone at night without sounding hateful and cranky and like im bitching cause mama is tired!!!!!!