Family

Our family lives together in one household. I don't know how to make it work.

The people in the house is me, my mother, father, Aunt we all have our own bedrooms there's three bathrooms kitchen living room upstairs, middle and basement there's two dogs my father's pet's.

My mom makes mess and she doesn't clean up for herself and we all have been living together for a long time we all pay and I have been taking on too much of a burden.

When you are the one picking up the slack and leading sometimes you get weary it wears you down. When my mom cleans up after herself she screaming that no one lift's a finger no one helps. When my father cleans up after himself and my mom he gets angry and says why does he have to do this when there's people who live here that can help clean he's talking about my mom and aunt and myself.

My Aunt doesn't clean and I am the only one who does a full clean of the house I clean daily and deep clean when I can and it's exhausting feeling like you are the only one who cares about the house and when you stop cleaning everyone does nothing the table gets covered in junk the dishes piled up the stove kitchen counter is dirty the kitchen floor is dirty the refrigerator is dirty the house is a mess sticky dirty floors and you are the one who buys cleaning product and you dust clean everything disinfectant and cleaning out refrigerators sweeping mopping cleaning windows those are the common areas to the house and separately cleaning the bedroom bathroom organizing your closet cooking and who has time for themselves

I am being disrespected taken advantage of and treated like Cinderella My Aunt and my mom were talking my aunt said oh yes no one helps you around the house insinuating that I don't help after I cleaned the table they are sitting around and talking and enjoying the freshly clean kitchen and My Aunt lives in the basement and does nothing and the dogs pooped in the basement and she tracked poop onto the upstairs middle floor and I layed newspaper 📰 down and she texted my mom that your daughter saw the dog poop and couldn't clean it up she acted like I am the maid of the house and I feel so bad I want to pack up my bags and leave I'm being taken advantage of and it's not that they aren't able when I was away on vacation my mom would clean and when my aunt was alone everyone besides her left she would clean the house but when return she stopped cleaning.

But the way my aunt talk to me like I am a maid I have had enough of both of my Aunt and My mom

Today after I haven't been cleaning as much as I used to the house used to be really beautiful because of me and my Mom said everyone in the house can help clean and it hurts because she knows she say me clean and all she did was sweep so it hurts I feel like they treat me like Cinderella and expect me to have the house clean so I want to cut them off how do I begin to not clean

I want to establish a place for my self esteem to grow a place for me to defend and stand up for myself and have self respect and demand respect from others I will no longer tolerate manipulation gaslighting narcissistic behavior and bullying how do I establish myself and let go