My bf has been a completely different person since we found out we’re having a girl.

I’ll try not to make this long but I feel like I’m at a loss with my bf. We have a 2 year old son and I unexpectedly got pregnant again. I’m almost 5 months along and before I got pregnant he was working every day, making his own money, etc. just taking care of us and doing good but then when I got pregnant he kinda started slacking on work. I didn’t care what the gender was but he really really wanted another boy he said he did not want a girl. Well we did a blood test and had it confirmed that I’m having a girl. He was upset but I figured he’d get over it. Since then he does not speak about my pregnancy, if I bring up the pregnancy or say anything about the baby he will flat out ignore me like he can’t even hear me, he throws fits every time I have a dr appointment and acts like it’s just the biggest inconvenience, he won’t buy anything for the baby, we literally have nothing for her yet. I do not have my own vehicle, he has a car that his mom is letting him borrow because they have multiple and his tore up but he does not let me use it so he has to drive me everywhere and complains about that. He also will NOT go to work anymore. Literally flat out refuses. His dad owns his own company and lets him work whenever he wants and usually that’s what he does and what he had been doing but now all of a sudden for the past month or 2 he “hates” working for his dad but absolutely will not go get another job. He constantly is borrowing money from his mom or spending her credit card. He has a melt down when I tell him our toddler needs diapers and he just tell his mom and she gets them. It’s just getting ridiculous and it’s humiliating me feeling like we are mooching off his parents. I’ve told him and told him we are grown adults, we are now fixing to have 2 children who are nobody else’s responsibility but ours, and that he needs to either go back to work or he needs to stay home with our toddler and help me with transportation to a job. I’ve practically been BEGGING him to help me get a job but he won’t even do that. So he don’t wanna work but also won’t help me get to work. He don’t wanna do anything. I just don’t understand what happened since I’ve been pregnant again it’s like a switch flipped and he’s just become so lazy and unmotivated and unattached. Idk what to do. He’s made me fully dependent on him, I have absolutely zero family. My parents are dead and I have no relationship with the rest of my family. I’m just starting to panic because I’m seeing that he’s not “snapping out” of this. I thought he was just in denial about another pregnancy or something or maybe denial about a girl which I was too about the pregnancy but i quickly accepted it. Idk if he’s maybe having a life crisis or some kinda psychological break I have no clue. He’s probably stressed out because we are all depending on him but I’ve tried and tried to get a job and he won’t help me so I have no choice but to depend on him. I have no income, no car, which was fine when he was taking care of us but now I’m starting to feel as if he’s just backing out of this life we had and everything is so different and difficult idk. I’m just REALLY stressing trying to figure out what I’m gonna do and kicking myself in the ass for allowing myself to get so dependent on someone because now that he’s dropping the ball it’s affecting our whole family and I feel like I’m just watching.