My aunt told my dad that I’m pregnant. What do i do?

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Sorry for the long story, I just needed to rant.
For starters, nobody knew I was pregnant except for my cousin and her wife. Only because of the fact that I’m living with them and I know they will be suspicious of me not smoking and drinking anymore and also my nausea. A couple days ago I found out by my cousins wife that my aunt somehow knows that I’m pregnant and that she also told my dad. Nobody knows how she found out and I’ve only seen her once since I found out I was pregnant. I’m not scared of my dad knowing but it should have been my decision to tell him. I had already planned out how I wanted to tell him and everything. My aunt didn’t even confirm with me that I was actually pregnant. She just straight up jumped to a conclusion and ran with it. Being the fact that I have had 2 miscarriages already, this is my 3rd pregnancy and I feel like it’s ruined. My aunt has a big mouth so I know if my dad knows, then everyone else does too. So what’s the point of having a pregnancy announcement? What’s the point of telling people I’m pregnant? It wasn’t my aunts place to say anything. I just really feel like she robbed me of my experience. And at this point I just wanna go through my pregnancy not telling anyone about it, I don’t want to have a gender reveal party I don’t want to have a baby shower and I know that’s not for a long time. I’m still in my first trimester but damn it I’m so upset rn, I don’t even know what to do. I don’t know if I should confront her. I don’t even know if I should let it go. If I do confront her, everyone is going to make me look like I’m the bad guy. But if I don’t it makes me look like I’m clueless and stupid. Idk what to do.

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If the only people you told were your cousin and her wife, it was them who told your aunt. Your cousins and aunt are obviously telling each other things. How else do you think your cousins know your aunt told your dad? What they did is wrong. Your pregnancy is your secret and business to tell. I would tell all of them that you know they’re talking and don’t appreciate it, and I’d keep your distance from them and/or not share anything with them anymore.

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Similar thing happened to me. We were at a work retirement party and I wasn’t drinking. The bartender asked what I wanted to drink and I said water. She jokingly told me that was lame and my boyfriend slipped that I was pregnant. I tried to make sure nobody was behind me as we briefly mentioned it. (We had just found out a week prior) Turns out my friends husband heard us talking and asked my boyfriend if it was true. They were both drinking so I didn’t think they would remember in the morning/hoped that my friend would wait until I told her personally. Before I knew it she told the boss and some other people at work without even confirming with me first. I felt the same way you did. Very upset and actually felt a lot of pressure not to miscarry at that point! Bc I didn’t want to have to explain that to people… I ended up miscarrying 3 weeks later and already know that with my next pregnancy I’m keeping it 100% our business until I’m ready for people to know. Sorry that happened to you! I can’t understand why people feel like such big news should be their right to tell.

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My mom did something similar where she assumed and ran with it; but i lied tbh just so shed drop it and not tell everyone. And it worked. I ended up telling her the truth tho when i hit like 23 weeks.

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After the hardships you went through to become pregnant again and then have the fun stuff taken from you if it were me honestly I wouldn’t be able to hold my tongue.

My aunt told my dad that I’m pregnant. What do i do?

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