Big wedding vs courthouse wedding

My fiancè and I want 2 very different things. I want a big wedding and he wants a courthouse wedding. My fiancè doesn't like big crowds of people. It makes him uncomfortable and he had panic attacks. Plus he has like one friend so he wouldn't have enough grooms to walk with my bridesmaids either way. And he doesn't have a mom to dance with. For him having a big wedding would only be fun for me because I'm a social butterfly. Not to mention he doesn't like most of my friends because they severely bullied him in highschool. He really just wants a courthouse wedding but I've had my dream wedding in my head for years and I really don't want to give up on that dream. I want to have the big dress. Walk down the aisle with my dad. See my bridesmaids in their dresses. I just really want that wedding but he just wants it to be us at the courthouse.