What should his consequence be for not respecting my boundaries when it comes to our child? I'm never speaking to my in-laws again, that's for sure.
I am not comfortable around dogs and my in-laws have a badly behaved German Shepherd. I do not bring my son over unless the dog is outside or kenneled inside. I have never left my son there alone because I do not trust the dog at all. My in-laws are always begging to let the dog out so the dog can get used to our son but I always say no.
My in-laws have been begging to watch our son (he's 10 months) for ages. We let them watch him at our place, but never at theirs. I don't trust the dog! I have expressed my concerns over and over again and my concerns have always been invalidated by my in-laws who claim their dog would never hurt our son.
Well, today I worked and my husband went against my wishes and dropped off our son at his parents place so he could go fishing. Of COURSE my in-laws let our son play with the dog and wouldn't you know it, the dog nipped his arm and he needed 18 stitches between his armpit and elbow.
My child is in the hospital for surgical repairs and I'm having that dog (edit because previous wording got people upset) HUMANELY EUTHANIZED. This is the humane society's ruling because of the injury caused to my son and the fact that this is the second aggressive incident with the dog. I just found out that the dog was responsible for killing the neighbour's cat last year which has also swayed the decision to euthanize. End of edit.
My in-laws tried to say that my son pulled on the dog's ears and if I wasn't so hell-bent against the dog this never would have happened. My husband says that this is partially my fault because I've never let my son learn how to act around dogs.
My husband is currently staying with his parents because I told him if he blames this on me I'm leaving and I will take him to the cleaners and divorce him. He says that if I can't see that this is also partially my fault, I'm daft. Our son IS IN HOSPITAL. I'm dealing with a child who is scared and in pain, all while also dealing with police taking my statements and I'm giving them screenshots of my concerns because HALLELUJAH I have records of my concerns over text. Not to mention my own emotions from the situation.
My child has needed minor surgery to repair his arm skin. Luckily it is a skin wound but this is exactly what I warned them about. I told them that our son is 10 months old and has no impulse control. I told them that our son hits and grabs and that until he has better impulse control, he cannot be around the dog.
I have told my in-laws and husband that I am not talking to them right now. They went against my wishes and our son and the dog have suffered because of it. This is not a mistake, this is the consequence of their poor judgement. I've been assured that the dog is being humanely euthanized and is already in custody of the humane society.
I'm livid at my husband for going against our agreed upon rule that our son is never left at his parents unless one of us is there and I'm absolutely furious that because of my in-laws negligence and atrocious judgement, my child was bit. This could have been worse and luckily the surgeon told me that the wound should heal with a barely noticeable scar.
For those wondering, my husband has been also seeing our son in hospital but not at the same time as me. I told him that right now I am too angry at the situation to speak to him like an adult.
I honestly feel like divorcing him because I cannot believe he endangered our child like this.
Edit: I hate the downvotes feature on Glow. I don't understand why my topic is being downvoted.
My BABY doesn't understand what happened. He is terrified! He is in so much pain and he's restrained so he doesn't rip out his IVs. I have no compassion for the animal that did this to him. Downvote away for my feelings towards the dog being euthanized. It's pretty sad that the comments on here defending the dog are getting upvotes. Yes, life is precious, but the dog is aggressive and has already killed a cat and bitten my child so severely that he's in hospital.
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