Pattern of abuse? Feeling confused

I made a post a few days ago in another group talking about my boyfriend hitting me for the first time. We were in a heated argument and he grabbed my hair, threw me to the ground and kicked me in the face. He kicked me in the ribs and dragged me by my hair MULTIPLE times. The fight went on for about 20 mins.

I said this was the first time he put his hands on me, which is true, but I actually just remembered a time when he was aggressive towards me and I’m not sure if it’s considered physical abuse? A few months ago when he was mad at me during an argument he threw a full cup of iced coffee on my face while I was sitting in my drivers seat and it got everywhere. All over me and my car.

When we fight he gets verbally abusive, calling me a c*nt, bitch, piece of shit, more times than I could begin to count. I’ve called him a narcissist but never attacked him the way he has me.

Now looking back, the coffee incident was a bigger red flag than I thought. Was that the start of an abusive pattern that keeps getting worse? He says I push him to this point and I just feel like maybe I am responsible for pushing him past his limits.