AM I JUST NOT USED TO A GOOD GUY?🥹

Question

So I have this guy that I have been talking to for a couple of minutes he will seems like a nice guy he wants to spend time with me and he messaged me consistently. The only thing that kind of threw me for a loop is that he doesn’t try to be as sexual with me maybe kissing but he doesn’t push on sex w￼e have had sex 3 times I feel like I initiated it. I don’t know if I am being too strong are coming off as aggressive he does enjoy it of course and the moment but he just won’t initiate it….. so my trait is that I’m a sexual person ￼and truth be told I’m really used to guys wanting to have sex whether it’s just sex or we are in a relationship and sex is a thing . I’m kind of having second thoughts I don’t want to ruin it with this guy by being sexual this is the third time we had s￼ex and he’s mention “it’s not just about the sex with me for you” I did think that was cute but then another part made me feel like he’s not so attracted cause he’s not ready to jump on me am I overthinking? & I’m so use to taking the lead too it’s hard to go at a man’s pace in a relationship but I’m honestly willing to in this situation cause I really like the guy …. Should I address the encounters we had and apologize to him or what should I do or say ?😏 please help ladies I’m loosing my mind btw he’s 22 and I’m 25

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He honestly just sounds inexperienced. I didn't really see any red flags, and you're in your head a little.

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It sounds to me like he sees something in you that he finds much more valuable than sex.  I’ve been with my man for 10 years and he always reminds me that I’m the prize he wants, sex is a perk and a bonding tool.  Honestly, the relationship sounds pretty young. He might feel more than just physical attraction to you and feels you deserve more respect than an assumed right to your body.  Don’t freak yourself out. Honestly, the most stable relationships are built on friendship first as a foundation and sex comes later as you fall deeper in love. Some people can’t experience sexual arousal unless they have an pre existing friendship or bond prior to the coupling.
For many people, sex isn’t just a physical urge. It goes deeper than that. When you have the right person, sex is that moment when you are truly one being. Nothing in the world exists but your love for one another and the love you create together. Your pleasure is their pleasure and their pleasure is yours. It is the closest two souls can get to truly being unified. 
Talk to him, if he wants to take more time building a foundation with you, let him.  Nurture what you have, don’t force it to mature before its time. Good luck, love ❤️

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Talk to him. Tell him what you are used to. And it makes you feel he’s not so into you because he doesn’t take charge or the lead or aggressive or makes the first move. But he did say it’s not just about sex. He wants to have fun and go on dates or do things outside the bedroom.  But maybe he doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable or feel forced. Or hasn’t been with many women. Might be a virgin or inexperienced. Have you had the talk about how many partners or std etc. he might be embarrassed or not know what he’s doing so he lets you take the lead. Nothing is going to get better unless you say something to him.

AM I JUST NOT USED TO A GOOD GUY?🥹

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