Should I just reach out to my ex and apologize?

Question

I have people in my inbox sending me really mean things because of something I said to my ex a long time ago. I saw the TikTok and someone asked him what was something that was said to him that stuck with him. He talked about how he never had a high sex drive. He's always been that when and he dated a girl(me) when he was 19 who constantly accused him of being gay because he didn't always want to have sex and he said it's so weird that nobody tells a woman that she's a lesbian when she doesn't want to have sex and stop calling men gay just because they don't fit your idea of what a straight man and that straight men are allowed to have low sex drives. They're allowed to be emotional. They're allowed to have loving relationships with their friends. He was just talking about how damaging it is and he's with a girl who he is sexually compatible with and their relationship is great. Me at 27 completely agree with him. I was 18 when I said this. The fact that people found me is WEIRD! I was young and I was stupid when I said this. People are leaving me messages calling me homophobic which I'm not and saying horrible things. Should I just reach out and apologize?

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Any other instance I would say to leave it alone, but due to the circumstances I think you should. Genuinely apologize to HIM only, don't respond or engage with anyone else whatsoever. Don't apologize to the people messaging you and don't post publicly that you reached out to him.

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Have you kept in touch with him all this time or would you contacting him be totally out of the blue? People say things when they’re young and dumb that they grow up to realize was wrong or hurtful, yes. But honestly if you’re thinking about reaching out but have not been in contact with him for over a decade, I would leave it alone. People are going to come at you regardless of apologizing or not, especially in this day and age. It sounds like he’s in a good place in his life, so I would let him stay that way. Unfortunately you just have to deal with the consequences of how you treated him long ago on your own.

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I think apologizing when youve wronged someone is a good thing to do. If it was a long-gone incident then I would let it go, but from his recent post it sounds like it still bothers him and he may appreciate the apology and knowing youve since changed your outlook.

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Are you wanting to apologize because you recognize what you said to him affected him or because people are cussing you out? If you’re genuinely apologetic to him, yes but if it’s just because people are in your inbox, leave it alone. They’re going to do it whether you apologize or not.

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What you think will happen when you apologise 
And are you only doing it because you are getting grief from people?
I feel you would have done it long before now if you really wanted to and not because your being called out 
I would just block and report the people messaging you and change the privacy settings on your account

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You're an asshole and should leave this man alone

Should I just reach out to my ex and apologize?

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