My relationship is still fresh and i’m not sure if he’s controlling me. I have made it clear to him that I value my privacy and like to keep things off social media as I barely have any social media presence. It’s not important to me at all, but for him it is. He wants to have my name in his profile and for me to do the same, so I did it even if it’s not my thing. This is because he kept talking about it and asked if I wanted to hide our relationship and if I didn’t want people to know about us, which for me is ridiculous. I know that I like him and that we’re together so I don’t care if my social media followers know or don’t know, but it was obviously a big deal for him. He kept mentioning a bikini picture I had posted until I deleted it. He got mad at me for not posting enough pictures of him and of us. He also got mad that I reply to my friends before i reply to him. This is only when we’re spending time together and we’re sitting next to each other when I answer my friends on snapchat before I answer him. I don’t see the point in contact on social media when we’re next to each other, I don’t do that with my friends either. Another thing is that I have told him multiple times that i want alone time. We spend most of our time together but I want to be alone sometimes. This got him mad and he told me that two people in love don’t want to be without each other. I continually ask for and explain alone-time but he doesn’t understand me, he takes it as something negative and doesn’t listen to me. On the days that I have gotten my alone time he always calls me and wants to know what i’m doing and checks up on me. I’m not a person that uses my phone a lot, even in relationships, but he makes me nervous and makes me use my phone a lot more because I don’t want him to think that i’m doing something i’m not supposed to. He has told me that he gets worried when I don’t respond.

I don’t know if it’s controlling or if he’s just insecure/ anxious, has trust issues or if it’s normal in relationships? It feels draining and I want it to change, but idk how.