Does it seem like my boyfriend is leading me on ?

I need relationship advice please. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 and a half years (will be 3 years in February). I’m about to be 29 in a few months and he’s 26. We met in LA and ever since 2021 we have been super close and get along really well. He’s from Brazil and was only able to stay here in LA on a student visa for the past couple years but now that his visa expired, he had to go back to his home country in Brazil. He’s been there since the end of July so we have been doing long distance for about 4 months now.

He’s pretty close with both my mom and dad and we have taken a trip together to Brazil where I met and stayed with his family. His family has also met mine and they seem to get along really well. Before he left to go back to Brazil we had discussed our future long term and marriage got brought up and he told me that he wants to marry You me one day but it was very vague and he didn’t really say anything about proposing to me in the near future. Now that he’s back in Brazil, he has been trying to focus on his career because his dream is to become a screenwriter one day. I really love him and want him to be successful in his career since that’s his dream but I can’t help but wonder where this relationship is going. I brought it up to him on the phone a few hours ago how I’m worried that he’s not as fully committed to the relationship as I am and that I don’t want to be strung along if he doesn’t truly see a relationship with me long term.

He wants to come back to LA but it’s not that easy and getting a visa can take years depending on the type. He’s asked me if I’d move to Brazil but my parents want to make sure that I’m at least engaged to him before make a big step like that which I completely understand. So I brought it up to him tonight and he said he gets where I’m coming from. But then he said “ it’s just really hard to fathom..” and he was referring to us being engaged and living together in Brazil. I didn’t understand if he meant this in a negative way, like he can’t imagine himself being engaged to me.

Whenever I bring up being engaged he always tells me he wants to focus more on his career first so that he can make enough money to provide for me as his wife one day. And then again he kept saying he wants to make the right decisions.. and then he would be like “ I mean make the right decision financially for both of us.” He also kept telling me that he has three priorities right now in his life “ his career, his family , and me “

We are taking a trip with my family this December to go to Hawaii and I’ll definitely bring it up to him since it’s easier to have an honest conversation in person. I just thought I needed some advice from maybe someone who has gone through a similar situation before. I want to believe that he means it when he says he wants to marry me one day but I can’t help but worry I’m wasting my time

Thanks in advance!