Can you stay friends with someone you dated ?

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This is more on a personal experience. How was it? Why or why not?

I dated a guy for 4 months. We were intimate on all levels. We shared many personal stuff. We were friends first for a year then dated.

The things I still have feelings for him. I decided to not reach out to him for 1 month and he texted me occasionally. When we dated we talked everyday on the phone and face timed. We went to the same gym too. For a while, I avoided going at the same time we used to go.

It’s now been 6 months since we dated and he keeps in touch occassionally. He randomly face time calls me. Just yesterday he face timed to wish me a happy late thanksgiving and to ask about a situation I’m going through. We talked for 2 hours. I don’t know if I’m Delulu (delusional) but like why face time and not call me

I thought I was over him but I’m clearly not. Any tips how I can carry this friendship but detach….

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I’ve never had any desire to stay friends with an ex. The only exception is a guy I dated for a year, we would check in with each other periodically for a couple of years.. we broke up because the timing was wrong & we both had some growing up to do.. but the feelings for each other never went away.. and he is now my husband, so 🤷🏻‍♀️. Any other relationship had it’s reasoning for ending & I knew I wasn’t meant to be with those other people, so when we parted our ways it was permanent. I don’t see a point in remaining friends.

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It’s way harder to be friends with an ex if there are still feelings. However, I am a believer in the idea that at least in some situations exes can be friends.

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I'm friends with pretty much all my exs. My very best friend in the world I dated for 4 yrs. He is very close with my husband now also and was in our wedding and see him weekly. I can stay friends with all of them because we split on good terms, knew we were done, and I had no active romantic feelings and had no want to ever be romantic again. If I still had feelings for one I would not have stayed in contact or sought friendship..at least for then. It wouldn't have been fair to me or them. I would have told them the truth and that I need to get over them 1st and then maybe later.if they wanted we could try to be friends but for actual friendship to be there I think you need to be in a place where the romantic feelings/longings have passed so the friendship is a healthy one.

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I've never stayed friends with an ex. I never had any bad breakups or anything like that. I just left them because I knew I wasn't going to marry them and I only date for marriage. I don't even know if any of my exs are alive and don't really care either way.

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I’m friends with most of my exes, at least cordially, not like we hang out or anything, but unless they were abusive or something like that, but I have no issues seeing them in public or running into them at Dunkin’ Donuts or something. I have no feelings for them whatsoever, and it’s completely platonic. I have my first love on Facebook, he’s married, and thank God I didn’t marry him because he was an alcoholic back then. And it was an emotional roller coaster that I couldn’t wait to get off of. I’m happy for him that he’s moved on and married and cleaned up portions of his life, he still has a lot of growing up to do but better than me. I talked to a bunch of my exes some of them. I have nothing to do with, if they want to reach out to me, then, by all means. As for you, he may be keeping the lines of communication open out of loneliness or in hopes to catch you in a vulnerable moment or keep you on the back burner as a back up plan in case he’s not getting laid by somebody else or he’s lonely because they rejected him or don’t overthink that’s really what it is people can be friends absolutely I talk to one of my exes several times a week because he still business associate that I deal with. We dated for 3 1/2 years. We didn’t end on a bad foot at all, it was more my decision due to lack of effort, and he knows if you stop making the effort I walk away and move onto somebody else and that’s exactly what I did. He knows I don’t wait around for anybody, we still talk several times a week. But like I said, don’t overthink it, he could be lonely or horny and hopes to catch you in a vulnerable or drunk moment, or just keeping the lines open in case he ever wants to get laid. I have several exes who try and do that, but not happening. just keep it breezy, play it cool, go with the flow, and don’t overthink it just because somebody acts like a boyfriend doesn’t mean that he is, it just means he tells you what you want to hear. Don’t overthink anything, don’t assume anything, and just go with the flow and keep it cool.

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Why’d you break up? Honestly it depends. I have an exhusband I’m still friends with. No feelings on my end at all. I don’t think his either, but even if there was, I’m remarried with kids so he lost that chance haha

Can you stay friends with someone you dated ?

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