Lied to… how to start over

I’ve been seeing this person for a year, long distance relationship 31/2 hours drive. I just got confirmation that he lied to me. A big lie that implies him having other relationships besides me, with him knowing clearly and accepting the conversation we had to be exclusive and both stating we are in love. But, plenty of little things got me suspicious.

The bottom of the story is he just wants to keep his dick wet no matter how hurtful his behaviour might be. I’m pissed and hurt.

Now, I left him 3 days ago. I oscillate between « good riddance » and « I’m so hurt I want to crawl into a cave roll in a ball and cry until I die ». But no, I won’t die.

What are your mantras to keep you afloat, to keep you from falling into cynical emotions and thread of taughts? I don’t want to end up bitter. But I got out of an abusive relationship now to end up in an other kind of abuse. How do you steer away from the « they are all the same »? I need something to hang on to now, so I don’t drown. All men in my life have been jerks to me or to others.