Have you ever experienced that?

Me saying “not right now” must be equating to “never” in his mind or something. He says because we are 29 already that we will be too old, he says he doesn’t want to be 35 and having his first kid.

And listen, there is something to be said about age correlating with fertility and I get that. But it’s like an argument every time and I mean, he brings this convo up maybe every other week!!! It’s driving me NUTS. My reasoning is that I’m enjoying the time with just ourselves, I’m enjoying having my free time and freedom to do what I want, I’m the skinniest I’ve been In years and I want to continue to enjoy that for a bit longer, and we are not financially ready for such a big cost right now. He literally rolls his eyes and said I’m being selfish and insane and if I don’t think I’m financially ready I should do something about it! I’m in shock that this is coming out of his mouth.

So I have some questions for y’all:

1. When did you know it was the right time? Did finances play a roll or factor?

2. Is all free time essentially over after you have kids?

3. How long did you wait after you were married to have kids? How old were you both?

4. How much, on avg, does your baby cost you per month?

I told him we should have a financial plan, figure out what we each contribute into our joint and how much we would need to come up with per month to solve that problem. He’s typically the finance guy! So I’m shocked he wasn’t in agreement.

Have you ever had a husband with so much baby fever (who essentially will not lift a finger to help with said baby when they arrive, btw) that he won’t listen to reason?

I’ve told him to stop pressuring me because I can’t believe that the person who is always so supportive and encouraging is acting like a POS but here we are.