Please share your divorce story ❤️

It took many years, many heart breaks and many long nights of soul searching to finally admit I can no longer be with my husband and do not want to be married any longer.

The thought of starting to even begin how to afford living separately and finding a place to live, splitting kids’ time and costs, how to balance that with school routines and mental/emotional well-being of all involved is OVERWHELMING. Please share with me what your story is, how you started and how it ended up, to give me some encouragement.

For reference: my husband and I hold respectable degrees. In fact, he is an attorney (works for himself). HOWEVER, we have been together 13.5 years and for about 8/9 of those years, I was the primary and/or sole, reliable breadwinner. It has nothing to do with earning potential. To keep it short and simple, he is not a motivated individual. He is emotionally fragile (has refused treatment for his depression and anxiety, among other things) and has a drinking problem. Last year he made only $12.000. The most he ever made was over $100k in 2019.

We have 4 kids together: 7, 5, 3, 1. I am completely stressed about how to even start splitting, well, everything up. I never saw it, not until recently, how narcissistic he was. I already know he will make my life a living hell for pursuing a divorce. For example, he has told me he will tell the kids how I am a B*tc h for breaking up the family. My mind is in shock while my heart is completely broken the very many things he has said. I would have refused to believe he could be so incredibly nasty and so spiteful if not for being told to my face.

If you’ve made it through the whole process, I would love to hear what it is like at the end of the tunnel.