My mil is very sweet and kind. I feel really bad for thinking these things. I’m pregnant with what will be her first grand baby and they are very excited.

I was at their house and she was talking about how she is clearing out a guest room to be able to make the baby a nursery there… the only issue is her house is incredibly dirty. Like literally never cleans the bathroom or floors. I don’t want to be graphic but the bathroom is like worse than a gas station bathroom with actual pee and other things on the ground and all over the toilet. They also have a pet that leaves messes everywhere and they just wipe it up with paper towel and there is so much animal hair on everything. I actually do not use the bathroom there and I have shoes that I wear in their house it’s just so bad. The kitchen is also really bad and there’s always moldy and expired food everywhere.

Just the thought of having a baby crawl around in their house scares me. I don’t know how to address this… I don’t want them to think I’m being judgmental because I honestly am just worried about the safety aspect. It’s not like the house is just cluttered or dusty. It’s a real health hazard.

I don’t know how to bring it up with them without hurting their feelings. Honestly I think the solution would be for them to hire a house cleaner (they have the money).

I would try to help but I also don’t know how to bring that up and being pregnant I’m avoiding any harsh chemicals and the bathroom needs to be bleached. And it seems so odd to have to go there and deep clean their house every time I would want to bring the baby there?

My husband is aware and on the same page about the issue but we both want to find a way to address it without seriously offending them… he says their house has always been like that and they just don’t notice or care.

Any advice on how to address this topic before baby comes?