I'm starting to question the transparency of my spouse. Been married almost a year, we are a blended family. Recently some things financially haven't been making sense to me, we still don't have a joint account which is relevant but not the issue.

He started a new job a few months ago and told me he brings home roughly $7000 after taxes, after all the bills are paid there's about $3000 left (we have an unoccupied rental we are renovating currently) so he pays the mortgage/utilities on that, his truck loan,. insurance, loans, etc.. that's $3000 each month not being allocated. While I make $4000 a month and pay all the bills where we live, rent/utilities, car payment, insurance, groceries and so on leaving me about $500 not allocated each month... I've asked him to help pitch in with our home bills because it's getting to be a lot of stress on me, a lot of the extras each month also fall on me so most of the time I'm left with barely anything at the end of the month. We make over $10000 a month combined and don't live lavishly, I shouldn't have to feel like this.. anyways I asked him to help from now on and he seemed very hesitant, saying he will try but it will leave HIM really tight each month. I feel like I'm missing something, something just isn't adding up. I've tried to bring it up before but it got met with defensiveness and him saying, "I said I'll try to help, you sound like you're being resentful."

Feeling very conflicted about the situation.