So I’ve posted about this friend before . My husband and I allowed an old friend of ours to move in as she needed a place to stay . She has taken advantage of our kindness by assuming we would watch her kid for free while she worked overnight . We both have full time day time jobs . I explained to her that she cannot expect us to house her & watch her kid for free . That was a discussion prior to her moving in .

The first day that she arrived , she thought her strange friend that we do not know could stay in our home . I said no ! I don’t know her and i had my godchildren in here . She recalls me saying yes to her about it but all our communication was through text which made it very obvious that was a lie .

After a while she starts to eat all of our food & dirty dishes without cleaning up after herself . I asked her to be an adult and clean up the house . We are hardly ever home & each time we come back something is dirty or her kid has broken something of ours .

She asked my husband for a ride to work after we specifically discussed that being a no go . Due to her making comments of being our “unicorn” or “third” , i don’t want her alone with my husband at all ! He’s been actively avoiding her as much as he can .

Here’s what i find weird , she let my cat outside yesterday accidentally and he was outside for hours . By the time i got home he was freaking out and super cold . I let him in and asked what happened ? She claims she never saw him go out , that was fine . However she spoke to my husband and told him what happened but texted me after she left our house to go to work . He keeps asking her to talk to me and not him - he doesn’t care .

She also is one of those people with every mental illness under the sun. Fails to take responsibility & when called out on it will try to be a victim . We have decided to cut her out of our lives for good due to this behavior. Isn’t all of this weird ?

To Casey - She’s a trauma dumper & will tell you without you asking for it . I tried talking to her plenty of times about cleaning up & never once did i say she couldn’t have a babysitter . We just don’t want to be her babysitter especially not at the expense of us losing our sleep for a child we didn’t make ! I didn’t say she can’t talk to my husband - he doesn’t want anything to do with her. Her expecting him to do things for her is absurd ! He’s not her child daddy nor caretaker . Her child is her responsibility.

To those who say it’s obvious & i shouldn’t have let her in - unfortunately for me i have been a people pleaser for many years & now growing out of this depressing trait . I know better now and I’m working on improving that .

I know her behavior is wrong and truthfully i was seeking confirmation here to make sure I’m not being a bitch or heartless by removing her from our home .

Edit again - 3 months ago i gave her a 90 day notice to vacate my home . This post was just to make sure i wasn’t being a bad person for my own decisions . I’d already made up my mind that she’s a user & disrespects our boundaries /relationship . We have cut her off and our home is so peaceful !