I’m going to try and keep this as short as possible, this also only happened a few hours ago so I’m still processing it.

My mom and I have never had a terrific relationship. She’s always been very… childish? I essentially raised her. She was pretty abusive in a few different ways when I was a kid (wouldn’t feed me, would lock me in closets, blame me for her emotional well-being). But as I’ve gotten older (I’m 23 now), it’s gotten a bit better.

I moved in with my dad when I was twelve and have lived with him ever since due to trying to save up money. My mom has always had a form of jealousy around my dad and I’s relationship because him and I are so close, and she’s expressed it a few times throughout my life. I thought our relationship was getting better up until tonight.

This afternoon she began by texting me to ask me how I was doing. I responded, and then she proceeds to tell me about my childhood dogs and how she wasn’t equipped to take care of them. I had no idea where this came from, but she began sharing details that I

A. Did not ask for & B. Did not need to know. They were a little weird but I ignored them and tried to change the subject. I repeatedly asked her to stop telling me things.

I’m going to spare the details here, but essentially she went off on a tangent about my dads side of the family, which I did not appreciate. So I once again, asked her to stop. I told her it made me uncomfortable and I did not want to talk about it. She continued. She finally made a very rude comment to me and I told her i did not appreciate the way she was speaking to me and that I was done speaking to her for the night. She then proceeds to blow my phone up with 20 years of her trauma (and when I say this I literally mean it). Very Inappropriate and intimate details I didn’t need to know. Things I could’ve (and should’ve) gone my entire life without knowing. I asked her to stop SEVERAL more times and she didn’t claiming it was the truth and she “needed to speak it”. She kept telling me things that were making me very upset and very angry at her. Finally following it up with “if you can’t handle the truth that’s your own problem” and telling me to quit acting like the victim. I have struggled with severe anxiety and depression as well as PTSD most of my life and she is well aware of this. My last saving grace was to send her a final message telling her I thought it was really cruel and weird of her to do that to me and I didn’t understand why she chose to do so. She again told me I was the one who had the problem.

I am really baffled, saddened, and almost sick. I have never had her be so mean to me. I’m unsure what to do. I’ve tried to set my boundary a few different times and she is way overstepping them. I am so uncomfortable and upset. I can’t believe she’d do that to me.

Am I being unreasonable? Do I block her? Why would she do this to me?