Is he ever going to commit?

This is all hitting me as I realized I’m turning 30 soon!

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 years. We met when I turned 19! We are monogamous and have been each others first but I don’t know if he will ever commit to me (marriage, living with me, kids, etc)

I went to college so the first 4 years of our relationship marriage was out of the picture. I had to finish college before I thought about college and kids. He also had to figure out his life as well.

We talked about our future and everything seemed promising.

He now has his own business and I have a stable job. For the past 2 years he’s been pressuring me with a child. I, on the other hand, has been pressuring him with marriage and living together. We both live with our parents. For the past 2 years, he’s been “promising” that will talk about getting a place but never mentions marriage. Marriage is super important to me. It’s been 2 years he says we will get a home together and start our lives together as a couple. If it’s one thing it’s another. He brings up debt, bills, taxes he pays for his company etc. i get that as im an adult too. im not expecting him to do all the work. i want us to consider working as a team and im getting fed up. i have money saved and ive considered getting a condo with my brother and use it as an investment for both of us. i got tired of waiting honestly.

i told my bf my plans, im turning 30 and i dont want to live with my parents. i want to start 2024 strong. hes so upset and told me to wait until he stabilizes. ive been waiting though and he wont give me what he wants.

also id like to add that just 3 months ago we got into an argument and he told me straight up he does not want to marry me. he was drunk….. it hurt eventhough he said he was drunk and didnt realize what he said

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