today I had my third trimester ultrasound appointment. I broke up with him when I was 3 months pregnant. Since then he was tried coming around or reaching out to me when he has problems with the girls he’s fucking. He asked for the opportunity to be a present dad during the last months of my pregnancy. After constantly being told I’m selfish for letting our personal problems get between a possible father/daughter relationship I decided to let him be there during the pregnancy. He hasn’t been to a single appointment with me during my pregnancy. Yesterday we spoke on the phone and we had agreed to meet up at the hospital for my 12:40 appt. Today, 12:20pm came by and no message or call. He stood me up. I had to fight back my tears in the waiting area. I cried once I got out of my appt. He called me at 2pm I didn’t answer.

He meets up with girls to have sex, take girls out on dates, sometimes even go out to drink early in the morning with his boss, but seeing his child wasn’t a priority? That hurt.

I have finally come to terms with he’s does not care about my child at all. He’s only coming around now because I’m going to give birth in 2 months…and is scared I’m going to get back at him once I give birth for everything he has done to me during pregnancy. Every time he comes around with the excuse of “being a family” or “present father” is a lie. He’s using this baby as an excuse to still have access to me…

I plan on filing for child support when the baby is born. Normally I would block him and not allow him to contact me anymore but a lot of people have been telling me that could backfire on me and be used against me in court.

Any advice would be helpful….

I’ve been doing great working on my self love but being stood up for an important appt really hurt me…