So I've been a sahm for almost five years now. I have a 4yr son and 1yr old daughter. My husband works and he's a great provider. Life has been rocky lately with ours marriage. Communication mainly. I think the first year after having a baby can be complicated at least for us thats been the case. My problem is we have both commincated how we want to parent our kids together and allow them to express themselves and be kids without us yelling and fussing at them... but he hasn't held up on his end. We can go all day with minimal tantrums and gotten to the point of my son managing his big boy feelings appropriately... but as soon as dad comes home that's out the window. He comes in and within seconds he's overwhelmed and instead of being like (to our son) I know you're having a hard time right now, but this is not how we respond... he just overreacts. And i tell him when we overreact that makes the kids overreact... however anytime I try to tell him how we make it work or how he should approach something he shuts me down.. and I hate it. Then my son thinks I'm the aggressor but really I feel like he's too young to understand I'm trying to help him but it always makes me out to be the bad person.. like.it just makes me upset and sometimes I feel like I'd be better off alone.. like constantly we can't talk about anything because he gets defensive. And I asked him why and he said it's because I always have something negative to say.. so I have changed my ways and have been actively listening and not speaking before I think but i feel like I have to walk on egg shells because he thinks everything I say is mean or rude... but I don't feel that way.. idk just need to vent... I love my husband but I'm just tired of this.. what can I do...