I have a couple of other mom friends we have a group chat. This summer I was pregnant with tons of health issues and delivered early. One mom friend wouldn't really acknowledge anything I was saying and kept saying essentially "don't worry just be grateful." I was over her friendship at that point when I delivered early and had a whole bunch of issues.

Recently my kids have been in the hospital for illnesses and another mom asked for an update. I was back at the ER with my son last night and this is week three it has been really severe and now I'm sick too. I asked for positive updates or what's going on in other people's lives. This one mom basically told me "just be grateful for the American healthcare system."

I left the chat. I really have no desire to teach someone how to meet someone where they are instead of telling me to find gratitude. My three months old was on IV antibiotics and oxygen being tested for organ failure because other hospital was giving him too much ibuprofen.

I get sometimes people don't always know what to say but I could have really used a friend to meet me at my needs. It has been a hard few weeks. She has help in forms of childcare and grandparents that I don't have so I have been just on a completely different isolation island with my very sick kids.

I'm not trying to take my anger out on anyone I just think if you can't emotionally be there for someone leave them alone. I needed to leave the chat for my own self.

These are long time family friends and my husband thinks I should have just ignored her like I have done for the past year and I just couldn't any longer. To be called a friend to me is to be a friend and she hasn't been one why waste energy on her.

What would you have done?