So I am trying to understand this is probably a privilege problem and I am looking for help how to handle this food situation.

I have a family member that is insistent on sending my family meals. This would sound kind except it's causing problems. This family member is a food hoarder so things are definitely past dates I would eat or feed my young children. They also have major food restrictions such as no teeth and so everything they give us is mush. Think over cooked beans and starches. It is absolutely not edible and even my husband who eats everything starts gagging.

We have tried to say "oh the kids are picky don't bother." Our kids are not picky. Or we say "gosh I like cooking and have our meals planned and shopped for already." None of my approaches has worked. The food still rolls in.

This family member also expects thank yous and cards for efforts. It adds so much to my already full life with three small children. I have tried to even approach how she could be helpful which she is so loving and does but without also bringing food. This happens at least weekly. I stopped thanking in hopes she stopped and that approach didn't work either.

Last time she brought me the food handed me a spoon and told me to try it in front of her. I have sensory issues with mush and started gagging I tried so hard to take a few bites. I ended up throwing it up as it was supposed to be tater tot hot dish and it was made with just mashed potatoes and beans and tots. The whole texture couldn't be swallowed.

Help me! She's visiting tomorrow!