AITA for wanting to leave my boyfriend of 9 years

So I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 19, we just turned 28 and I’m starting to reevaluate our relationship, throughout our entire relationship he’s never had a job and whenever we talk about it he just says it gives him too much anxiety to think about and if “someone tells him what to do he’s going to beat the shit out of them”, he has a child with his ex that he has nothing to do with (mostly because it’s a messed up and shitty situation but also he hasn’t tried to be in her life either), he’s never had his license and just flat out refuses to get it because he doesn’t want to be “harassed by the police” when they find out his got a license but y’all like I pay for everything and I mean EVERYTHING; power, Internet, phone, car, insurance you name it I pay it. Recently however I’ve been so stressed about money like $20 in my bank account the day before payday stressed and this man just refuses to do anything to help me. I’ve confronted him about it and he just gets mad and tells me he’s doing everything he can but has made no effort to do the things that seem important to me. I’m just wondering if I’ve been wasting my time or if I should try and get him to understand where I’m coming from more