Help I reallllly need some advice 😢

I’ve been with my partner for 9 years, we have two beautiful little girls. However since having the girls I’ve realised that my partners priorities don’t seem to sit with his family. He works Mon-Friday which I appreciate and as do I on an evening, I get home around 8pm.

He also plays sport every Saturday and sometimes gets home 8pm which means another full day without family time or time for me to have some time for me, of course we have a Sunday. Most things are closed on a Sunday, for example if I ever wanted to get my nails done or hair ect. Just something simple for me.

I have had a conversation with him numerous times about him taking some time off football now and then as I have been struggling with my mental health and just want some time to try and get the old me back, he’s very reluctant to take time off football he said once a months okay. But it’s been 4 months and he has made no effort. The other day I was really struggling mentally and I asked if he had to go to football as I just needed him, he replied “i can’t let my team down, there’s only 13 players today” but he can let me down.

I had my hair booked in for the 28th October but changed it to the week after, as my mum had asked me to go for lunch this Saturday and I knew he’d be upset if he missed football twice in a row, he replied “well what day do you want me to take off then? Your out twice, so close together? It’s a bit last minute” so I said my mum asked me last minute and he said well you’ll have to tell her it’s to last minute. I don’t know, just doesn’t feel like this is normal? I get he has to do what he wants but he’s played football religiously for years and years and I’m only asking for the odd two Saturdays here and there, I don’t think it’s to much? It’s his response that makes me think, that the kids and me are not a priority.

The other day I was really poorly he stayed at our home and I went to my parents as he was also ill with a sickness bug, yet I still have to look after our children and not to mention I actually collapsed at my parents as I was really poorly.

I have also addressed about football the other day I said you get 6-7hrs all day Saturday and his response was “so it’s jealously now” I said no not at all, I just want some time for me too. He also says things like jokingly “god help you if you was a single mum” if you don’t like having the kids put them in nursery”

“Get a job” so I said I had an evening job but you couldn’t even do the kids teas and get them in bed so I had to come home and do it myself as well as his and mine. So I said I’ll get a weekend job you stop football and I’ll work weekends, and he said well you won’t earn as much as me.

I don’t know my friends are telling me it’s like emotional abuse but I’m not sure, maybe me and my mental health is the issue ☹️ some advice from strangers would be really appreciated x