I can’t stand my husband

I literally cannot stand my husband anymore and that doesn’t even bother him. For the past year probably he just complains CONSTANTLY. He finds any reason to complain, any reason to act like a tool, he’s disrespectful and rude. He has no care for anyone but himself. I’ve been trying to wake up at 5AM so I can eat breakfast at home and try to do a 15-20 minute workout. But I have a 4 mo. So this morning I had to feed her after my alarm went off so I didn’t get out of bed until 5:15. I go to the kitchen and start getting my pumps ready to do my morning pump and he starts complaining that we don’t have any bread. Then he starts telling me I’m gross and need to shower. Then he start saying he’s throwing away everything on the counter because we live trashy. For reference, my house is clean - there’s a sequence pillow my son spilled pop on that belongs to my daughter and I promised not to let him throw it away, that I’d hand wash it but I didn’t get home until after 7pm and didn’t have time. The only other thing up there is my pump stuff which my husband and I already came up with a plan to organize that this weekend. I explained the pillow to him and he literally just continued to threaten to throw it away. I told him I just woke up after being up with the baby at 1 and 3 so I don’t appreciate being berated first thing in the morning and I’m tired of him complaining constantly about everything. I explained that he is capable of going to the store for bread since he get home at 2-3 and I get home at 6-7. But did that stop him? No he continued to complain about me not doing enough around the house which is a lie, I do just as much as he does while also doing the most for all my kids and working a full time job. I’m out of the house over 12 hours a day most days! Yesterday was crazy between a 7:39am appointment over an hour away, dance class and a school fair but I didn’t complain once. My sons working towards an autism diagnosis and has been having terrible fits that I generally have to deal with but do I complain? Nope.

But he wants to complain about my car being dirty, stuff being on the counter, me not showering daily, not having sex. The little things. I just want him gone. He’s nothing but an annoyance at this point. I’ve tried telling him the complaining non stop needs to change but he just finds something else. I say “I’m tired of the complaining, I have a lot going on and I don’t need you making it worse” and his response is “I’m tired of babysitting everyone in this house and cleaning up after everyone” there’s a lot I’m tired of, but I’m only asking for one damn thing! Ugh! Any advice other than kicking him to the curb? I want to work this out but he doesn’t seem to care how I feel!