This morning, my partner wanted to have sex. I wasn’t in the mood and said if we could do it later. Apparently that wasn’t the answer he was wanting. He immediately stopped cuddling, turned his back to me, and said that lately he’s been noticing he’s been saying yes a lot and I haven’t.

*Mind you, we’ve had a lot of sex lately. We had sex yesterday, 2 days before that, and about 5 times last week.*

I asked him to clarify because we’ve been having sex. He said that he’s always the one saying yes even though he’s not in the mood because he wants to be a good partner. (Hence basically saying I’m not). I told him he is allowed to turn me down when he’s not feeling it and to give me an example of when. He said the other day it was late and he was tired and he wanted to say no but I was already naked and laying on him. I told him that while I was laying on him, I asked him if he wanted to wait until tomorrow if he’s too tired (I remember this because I was tired too and it was late but I had promised him I’d have sex with him so that’s why I was ready but I asked him hoping he’d say to wait).

Well he said he’s been keeping track of who’s been starting stuff and who hasn’t. Then told me I could go get myself breakfast and then he’d go grocery shopping with me. I told him he’d already agreed to eat breakfast together and he said he doesn’t give a fuck about himself not eating to just go get myself something.

Is he seriously mad that I turned him down?? I literally gave him head yesterday and the day before and we had sex 2 days ago. I’m always complimenting him so I’m just confused. Wouldn’t you want your partner to not feel forced into having to do something they clearly aren’t in the mood for? It’s 9am, I’ve been up since 7:30am. I’m hungry not horny. Yet later wasn’t a good enough answer. Wow.