So I most dated men my whole life, and decided to date a woman for the first time.

I told my friend in a joking way the ease the awkwardness of the decision (she’s made comments expressing her discomfort with having a gay son). She ended up cracking a joke, with a mutual friend without my consent, and he commented by saying “oh noooo Lo”. When she told me this story, I immediately corrected her and said that wasn’t for you to tell (especially if it was just gossiping). She never really apologized, but at least acknowledged and we moved on.

Fast forward almost 3 years later, and me and the girl are still together. This is healthiest relationship I’ve been in and I’m treated extremely well. But my friend has never really asked about my partner or showed any type of support for my journey or relationship. We talk every day, and have maybe chatted about my partner 8 times.

I grew resentful, and one day just blurted it out. (Note: I didn’t feel safe to express how I truly felt with her, bc I’m every time I did, she would say that I’m too much and distance herself. I eventually sorta of learned to silence my feelings).

When she responded, she was like “so I just need to ask more questions”. This infuriated me, bc I felt like she minimized the feedback. I’m asking you to show up as an ally and a genuine supporter. I ended saying that she may have deeper homophobic feelings (based on several comments she’s made in the past) and we haven’t spoken since.

I would never knowingly hurt a friend, and then just discard them. I’m struggling to feel valid on what I feel bc I’ve always seen her in such a positive light.

How would you feel if you were me? Comment below!