Am I the problem ?

I just need to vent so this will be long. My partner and I have been together 10 years but I don’t think I am in love with him anymore and want to leave but we have a baby together. I should have probably left from years ago but when I made up my mind to leave I found out I was pregnant. Just my luck, after being together for years the time I made up my mind to leave I ended up getting pregnant.

He is an okay guy but I don’t think he is ready to be a man and he is still stuck to his family. The first situation was when we made plans to go on a trip for my birthday only to be told days after that we would have to push back the trip because his mother was flying to another country and she was scared to fly alone so he would accompany her. Situation 2 was when I asked him to spend Christmas with me and my family and he told me he didn’t want to leave his father alone on Christmas but then ended up going out with friends because his father got him upset. Situation 3 was when I asked for us to get our own apartment he told me he didn’t want to let his dad live alone. Situation 4 was when I was informed that we couldn’t get married anytime soon because his mother was petitioning for him so if we got married it would stop the process and it would take years to start over. Now after looking back I don’t even have access to his bank account which his mother does and she even tracks him when he goes anywhere. I don’t even track him. He has a very close relationship with his mother and I don’t mind that because I have the same with my mother. But recently after having our baby I can’t stand him and his parents. We are currently living with his dad who makes comments like buy bigger clothes for the baby or you are not feeding him enough, you are feeding him too much. My favorite situation so far is my partner, myself, our baby and his dad went to visit some friends and one of the friends said that the baby looked like me and got my hair, my partner’s dad was like and he got it from my son too. At first these comments didn’t bother me because I’m like our son is a mixture of us both but I also heard his mom making more of these comments and comparing my son to her other grandson which I hate comparison. My partner sees nothing wrong with all of this but it’s making me uncomfortable and because he sees nothing wrong with what his parents are doing I am just numb and over the entire thing. Now I’m thinking he is caught up on his parents and he isn’t a man but rather still a boy. My partner went to work one day and came home and when he held our son he started crying, my partner was like ‘what did your mother tell you about me’. He says those things to our son a lot or when he had our son and I walk by and blow a kiss he would turn our son away from me. I want to leave but I also want my baby to be around his dad or am I just the problem here.