Let me husband lead

I am Roman Catholic and my husband and I have been married for six and half years and have a few children. We have a typical family and I'm a stay at home mom.

I'm loud, I'm stubborn, I'm generous and genuine. My husband is more reserved his anxiety dictates most of his choices. He's a hard working man and loves his family. That being said my husband is asking me to take a step back and let him lead our family. I've asked him what that means for him as I basically do all child rearing and manage our home and family.

To me it seems like he doesn't want me to complain about him or to challenge him. It feels like he wants me to be agreeable to him. I'm finding this hard. I don't think he is considerate of me so letting him lead feels like let him him behave selfish.

I'm looking for some introspection on what letting your husband lead means for a wife. To me we've been a team and this isn't something I'm comfortable with.

Also I grew up abused so losing my sense of voice doesn't sit well with me now I'm an adult. My husband isn't abusive but he can be selfish and I am not attracted to that and it doesn't serve our family well. I'm looking for advice.