What would can you do

Boy he is so rebellious and he wants to do whatever he wants says no to rules and it gives my mind and body stress when he has an attitude talks back and is trying to overrule my authority he has chores homework to get done and I feel like I am walking around on eggshells if I ask him can you please do your homework and chores he will yell at me and start stomping slamming doors yelling or he will ignore me and play. I am almost scared to talk to him because I feel so unwell when he treats me bad I can't believe it if I saw a child talking to his mother with disrespect I could not handle it I grew up in a different time where you would not think to raise your voice at your mother, raise your hand, yell screaming at her and slamming doors saying you don't have to brush your teeth or do homework.

My heart hurts and I feel like crying I don't know what to do with him if you can please pray for our family. Advice how to parent son's boys he is age nine.