Verbal abusive

My husband and I are trying to work our marriage out. Man it’s been a rollercoaster. From past abuse and trauma. Trying to go through counseling in hopes of healing.

We’ve been back the past few days and I told him I don’t want to just have a sexual relationship. We need more than sex. At least I do. It’s almost as if he looks forward to night time just to f***.

Nothing else seems to interest him. Trying to trust or work on our bond. He doesn’t really speak on that…unless I do.

He left to door dash( he doesn’t have a full time job) we are a family of 5! So I pretty much do it all…

and I texted him just saying how I loved him and wanted us to be in love again and not just have a sexual connection. I explained how trust and respect comes before sex and we should work on that connection. Lately we just been having sex.

He got mad and texted me back “How am I supposed to read all that”? He got angry started cussing like you fucking text me this long text I’m trying to read this shit. I’m trying to read this fucking shit you wrote. It was just hurtful and shows me he never will change. He says that wasn’t rude and that I was the rude one for texting him .

Plenty of Times he has texted me and I’m busy but I never respond to him like that EVER. He said he was frustrated but I was rude. He just still seems to have the abuse lingering inside of him waiting to come out. He’s not that way when he’s ready to have sex…two different reactions.