My “bestfriend” is going through a breakup and she wanted me to come visit her after work to talk about it. I said I’m busy but I will let her know. The time comes and she asks if we’re still hanging out but I haven’t responded. Instead I took a nap and let all of her calls go to voicemail.

I know this was mean but I have been trying to slowly distance myself. She has been a very bad friend over the past few years and I am tired of the drama. I know I went about it the wrong way & I shouldn’t have just ghosted her but what do I do now? Im still human and care about her, I don’t want her to be that depressed. So do I support her through her through her breakup and ignore my own resentments towards her? or would that be fake? or should I tell her that I don’t want to be friends? but then she has to go through 2 breakups but at least I’m being honest and not fake.

Also I know what I did is mean and this is a bad situation to put her in but you have to understand there are always 2 sides and she’s done mean things as well. This post however is not about trashing her because she’s in a vulnerable position right now and I need to know what to do.