Household Chores

I’m just genuinely curious, How do any of you split chores around the house/apartment? Wanted to see if anyone else lives in my same predicament.

I live with my boyfriend who bought his house long before we started dating. We’ve been together for almost three years. Since I’ve moved in, I’m the ONLY one doing all the chores around the house. Every now and then, he’ll clean the dishes if the dirty dishes piled up in the sink start to bug him. As for myself…Dusting, Cleaning the Bathrooms, Laundry (sometimes he does his own laundry without me asking), Vacuuming, taking the trash/recycling out, even Yard work falls onto me. All of this falling onto me has gotten to the point where I’ve stopped cleaning, praying he’ll actually help out and take some of the burden off my shoulders.

Another note: We both work 10 hours a day 4 days a week, but our schedules are different. He’s Monday through Thursday and I work Wednesday through Saturday. He commutes to an office while I work from Home. When I have a slow day at work, I’m cleaning because I personally can’t stand to live in a mess. I had a conversation with him a while back about how I was getting burnt out with cleaning…his response was “welcome to adulthood” which as you can imagine (and I’m sure many of you just saw red), this statement pissed me off and I went straight to bed that night. Since that comment, I’ve reigned back on how much cleaning I do to see if he will pitch in. He only does when something is dirty enough to bug him, which for my standards…well, let’s just say is gross.

The last time he even cleaned the bathroom without me telling him to, was when our shower drain was clogged. That was a month ago. I grew up in a household where the bathrooms were cleaned monthly, laundry was done every week, dusting was done every week, and vacuuming was done every other week. One other thing I’d like to mention: we have two dogs. I own a Roomba that runs twice a week to help with the dog hair, but it only works the main floor. While we split feeding our dogs 50/50, I woke up this morning to find BOTH food containers for our dogs empty and OPEN food bags right on top of the dogs food containers. It takes two second to empty a food bag. I did both.

I guess what I’m trying to get at with this post is how do you all split chores? I’ve tried splitting everything 50/50, but nothing gets done. Between the two of us…the cleaning duties are split 90/10, with me doing a majority of our chores. This is the one thing we are always arguing about. I’m done fighting it, but I need help, especially since we now have a project known as painting a room. That’s more than likely going to fall on me since I know he’s not gonna do it.