Mother in law and kids

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Mommies i need help no judgement please. So I’m a mom of 2 boys 2 and 7months. My mother in law is a good grandma and the boys absolutely love her. My oldest is literally obsessed BUT i don’t like how she doesn’t give me authority if that makes sense…ex: I’ll be like come on son time for bed and she’s like “you know he’s not gonna let you put him to sleep when I’m here” instead of saying “listen to mommy or something like that and she does that often with multiple scenarios.

Secondly we’re currently on a family rd trip to Virginia and I DO NOT like how she drives but I have to go back to work so I’m catching a flight early don’t wanna risk my job. I knew she drove crazy but I didn’t think she’d do that with kids in the car…she rides cars tail, cursem out if they’re driving slow, speeds.. idk it’s just too much. I pray nothing happens when they drive back because id feel like a crappie mom if something were to happen to my kids. Should i call out and risk the job? After today I’m like idc about no plane ticket i purchased their safety is more important. Driving from Virginia back to Atlanta. Idk what to do…I don’t like confrontation, I don’t like drama but I gotta stick up for my kids. Unfortunately hubby couldn’t come because he had to work so I went on his behalf cause I wasn’t gonna let the kids go without me