Hi I’m Dani ( f20) me and my husband (m23) eloped in Tokyo during a trip in a huge field of cherry blossom trees and some sunflowers best day ever and didn’t tell anyone til Christmas and new years and they hate that we eloped and anyone and everyone will use it against us for any stupid reason and also my sister just got married and treated me like absolute shit as her bridesmaid I was pretty much doing everything my aunt the maid of honor should have been doing but she was already busy with getting drunk so I pretty much pretty much put everything together and still got treated like crap

But We decided we want to do another wedding for the family but both families have offered to pay for everything honeymoon included we aren’t doing a big one since we already did one since it was already done in Tokyo they asked us to do another one so we are going to my grandma is going to be fully blind very soon his grandma will be wheelchair bound soon to and I want them to be included so I texted my maid of honor my sister and I texted her

“I know supposed be little girls for flower girls and only supposed to be one but I don't think we got any little girls running around in this family that we actually talk to (we have several and every single family member on my side both my mom and dads side lives in my town we all live less then 20 minutes ago and I hate yet to meet half of them let alone know half there kids )so I was thinking

His grandma

Grandma Sharon

Grandma Julie

Grandma be be Jo could be my flower girls

Then the his grandpa can carry his ring and grandpa can can carry my ring as the ring carrier

And she was a total Bi*** about it she said it was very excessive and stupid she then called me and said I don’t think you know how weddings work since you guys decided to just elope and just started yelling at me saying it’s stupid to have that many and that it’s too much and over the top

I said you guys are the ones who wanted us to do another one

we absolutely hate that we have to do it again just due to us being jobless barely can take care of our animals and our apartment we are already stressed with our lease ending VERY SOON and on top of that my husband family is begging us to get pregnant so due to that we are also ttc we had a miscarriage back in February I just got a tattoo for her (added below poll) but since then we are still trying this month I fully stopped taking test I stop bbt it’s been so draining taking test and stuff but anyways she texted me again and said that I was stupid to have that many and I said I didn’t ask it’s going happening just because you like it’s over the top well it’s my wedding I’m planning it only because you guys are up my ass All the time judge us all the time well if you guys didn’t bitch at us all the time maybe we would have had the first one and invited everyone and that I’m only doing it because it’s being paid for and she just stopped bitching and just ended the call I texted her I said your my sister my maid of honor if you aren’t liking what I want for the wedding you guys asked for then you can just be a bridesmaid and husband aunt/like a sister will be my maid of honor and I know she would love the idea

But I just want to know if 4 grandmas as flower girls and two grandpas as ring carriers is to excessive