I just got my lab results (at 6am on a Sunday in my email 😅) for my NIPT. I had told my husband I didn’t want to find out the gender this pregnancy because it’s our 3rd and final baby and we’ve never let it be a surprise. But in reality I fully intended to find out but just keep it a secret from everyone else (including him because as much as I think he’d try his best to keep the secret with me, he would let it slip just like he did our 2nd daughter’s name we weren’t telling anyone).

BUT I just got the results and found out our 3rd and final is a girl. Our 3rd girl. My husband loves our girls but I know he was hoping so much to have a boy this time. I know I need to tell him now, I can’t keep it a secret from him like I had planned.

Now I’m trying to figure out how to help him with the gender disappointment that he will be feeling. (And I guess I’m feeling a little too because I’ll never have a chance to be a mom to a boy but also I love being a girl mom.)

I truly think his hopes for a boy are rooted in his mindset that boys play sports and he was/is a big sports guy and now he won’t have that. Even though I’ve told him over and over that our girls can do anything a boy can (and our oldest is in all kinds of sports and teams) but I think he still has the dream of watching a son play high school football or baseball.

Any suggestions on softening the blow with the gender disappointment?

I’m thinking I’ll possibly wait until our anatomy scan to tell him the gender so I’ve still got like 9 weeks to think of something.